Ok, so, Lori just posted a comment on the entry below about the book I am supposedly writing. Earlier last week, our new Scottish (Ok, English…but currently Scottish) friend Geoffrey asked something similar on his blog. The few links I was missing in my head were connected on the flight back from Scotland, and I’ve decided to do it. For real this time.
I am going to write a book.
It’s probably going to be targeted more towards girls, but guys, you are more than welcome to chip in as well on this question. I read Every Man’s Battle and skimmed through Wild at Heart, so surely there are guys out there who would read something to get inside a woman’s head, right?
The temporary title and direction I am going is…
Confessions of an Affirmation Junkie
(and other taboo topics good girls don’t discuss)
which is going to encompass the idea of loving God with all our hearts, minds and strength (physical, mental and emotional) – and how there are areas most women struggle and find temptation, yet no one ever talks about…such as porn, emotional affairs, wondering if you married the wrong person, dating and sex, etc., etc.
That is where I need your help. What are some topics YOU think should be written about that aren’t talked about??? If you’d like to post anonymously, just type in “anonymous” and a fake email for your comment.
Also, I am sure there are tons of people who read your blog (because you are way cooler than I am…) that would have extremely valuable input on this conversation. I would be completely humbled if you could post this request for people to respond to.
Thanks for your never-ending support!!
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…hello anne….well i have so much to offer you on these topics….i am contemplating writing a book myself because i am so disturbed at the lack of compassion the ‘church’ has toward women that struggle with these issues..i have faced some of these issues personally….talk about sexist…women aren’t allowed to have struggles with taboo topics but because it is ‘expected’ that men do, they are usually dealt with differently….so with all that said, wanna collaborate and split the profits….lol
ps…you have my email if you want to chat….my site is jenswinburne.voxtropolis.com
It’d be interesting to see someone tackle the confusion some young women in evangelical circles have in relatining sex with Christ. Growing up myself in North Dallas and attending a Christian high school, it seemed a great deal of importance was placed on sexual purity with girls and ’saving yourself for Jesus.’ Subsequently, I’ve noticed that many girls who lost their virginity in high school or in college become emotionally adrift faithwise, as if their only use to God was as virgin brides. In other words, when there is so much emphasis placed on the church as a virginal bride to Christ’s groom, what happens to the girls who aren’t virgins?
How about writing how women’s relationships with their fathers influence other relationships and life decisions? Or how about how growing up in an age when divorce is the norm has impacted a generation of now committment-phobes?
Anne,
With the amount of data already presented you won’t be writing a book, rather an extensive set of encyclopedias!
Just a little humor, no real contribution at the moment, will mull it over.
Shari
This sounds like a great idea for a book. I don’t know about other women, but i struggle a lot with thinking about sex. I’m not married, nor will i be for a number of years, but sometimes i just can’t get it off my mind. It frustrates me that this is always dealt with for guys, but people always say that women have lower sex drives, and so they don’t confont it. Maybe guys are more sex-driven, but this is a really big struggle for me. Maybe if other women also struggle with this, you could include it. I think the key is research, so you have some figures and actual anecdotes to include in your book. If you made a survey, i would be happy to do it and pass it on. Feel free to email me if you want me to go into more detail about my struggle with this issue. Also, depending on how many issues you choose to cover, you could shange the name to something more encompassing. Anyway, i’m really looking forward to reading this book, good luck!
I think it sounds like a really good theme for book. I only have one thing to mention.
Books directed toward men about purity and sexuality (or anything of that nature) all seems to have this underlying theme that men are less valuable than women.
Similarly, books written toward women regarding purity or submission (for example, ‘Fascinating Womanhood’) seem to have the idea that women are less valuable than men.
So, aside from that gripe …I would definitely read it.
Wow.
Anne, I’m still chuckling at the idea of a Holy Ghost enema!… but I don’t think your comment was much of a digression… hmmmm, very strange.
missing you! the house seams very quiet!
geat idea for those who dont feel comfartable talking about hese issues. I personally would love to read it.
I’ll read anything that helps me figure out women! :)
I don’t have any ideas for you at the moment, but I just wanted to comment that I think this is such a fabulous idea, and I pray that God continues to lead and guide you through the writing process. Sounds like it’s going to be a fabulous book!!!
i’m down.
Fabulous Idea!
Sounds awesome! I give you my affirmation. *grin*
i think a lot of girls are always looking for someone to “complete them” like jerry maguire. therefore they settle into a lot of relationships with loser guys and in a lot of cases actually marry these jugheads. “He’s just not that into you”, although I haven’t read it, but saw the interview on Oprah(laugh, laugh) seemed to be a great wake-up call for those girls who would do anything for love. Also, what I loved about every man’s battle is that they delved into our spiritual relationship with Christ first. It wasn’t just a “let’s do this to be cleaner Christians” book. Get the Main relationship right, and you’ll strive to get your other relationships right.
Someone touched on this above, but I’ll second the notion…
As the father of a 9 year old girl – I want to learn all that I can about how my success and/or failure as a father will shape her life. Would love to read up on a woman’s perspective of the things her dad did well (or didn’t do well) and how that had an impact on her life in general…
What a wonderful idea. I be able to say I personally know a bestselling author. When you’re on Oprah will you give me a shoutout? Wait, nevermind, I don’t watch Oprah. How about when you’re on Letterman? But I digress.
I think something that would be helpful would also be to discuss the point of view. Maybe an indepth look at some different women and how they view those “taboo” subjects. And what things happened in their live to help shape those beliefs. I think it would be great if there could be a lot on the “Why”. Like what makes the item taboo? What’s the male perspective on the action? What’s the female? Does the perspective change depending on whether the offender is male or female? What churches and various demoninations are more or less open about discussing these things?
Whoah, I guess I got a little carried away. But I guess those are some of the questions I’d like answered. Let me know when you publish.
I know I am late to reply to this… I felt there should be more articles on ways to overcome female porn addiction. Written for females, by females.
i missed this post when i was out of town!! how stinkin’ cool. i am proud of you. if you need someone to write the forward… wink wink.
dude. awesome.